Etiquette Tips for Visiting a Cemetery

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Family members and friends of loved ones who have passed on may choose to visit the cemetery where they are interred for a variety of reasons. Some people feel compelled to pay their respects, to tend to the gravesite and grave marker, or to gather with others to share cherished memories of the decedent. If you’re planning a visit to a cemetery, there are a few matters of etiquette you should be aware of.

Check the Rules
Before you depart for the cemetery, visit our website to check for our list of rules and guidelines. If none are available, you can inquire at the office when you arrive. Pay close attention to guidelines about leaving flowers and other personal items at the grave. We do not allow planted flora or anything that is affixed directly to the headstone. You may leave personal items, but be aware that they will be collected. You can inquire about the next collection date so that you can retrieve the personal items if you wish.

Supervise Children
If you will be bringing children or adolescents with you to the cemetery, it’s important to discuss with them beforehand the importance of proper decorum. Explain that you expect them to not yell, run around, roll around on the ground, throw items, or otherwise behave disrespectfully. Remind them that you will be going to a place where there will very likely be other mourners, some of whom may have very recently lost their loved ones. Parents or caregivers should maintain supervision of children at all times.

Maintain the Tranquility
It is not necessary to speak in whispers, but adults should maintain the same rules of decorum as children. Avoid calling out to other people; use a moderate volume when speaking. When driving through the cemetery, stay on the designated path. Keep your car radio off. Littering, including leaving cigarette butts, is strictly frowned upon. Pets are not allowed on the lawns.

Inglewood Park Cemetery welcomes respectful visitors and mourners to our cemetery. We abide by strict maintenance regulations for the care and upkeep of our grounds, but if you have a special service request, you may contact us at (310) 412-6500. Those who are planning a funeral or pre-planning a funeral can visit us online to view our cemetery memorial options. As always, our Memorial Counselors are here to answer any questions you may have.

Answering Questions About Cremation Options

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Cremation has long been a respectful method of rendering the body of a decedent into its most basic components, yet this choice has grown even more popular in recent years. This is perhaps due in part to the greater recognition of the versatility of cremation. If you’re pre-planning your own funeral or making arrangements for a loved one who has passed, consider asking your Memorial Counselor about cremation options.

Can I still inter the remains at the cemetery if I choose cremation?
Yes, many people choose interment for the cremated remains, although you can certainly choose to keep the urn closer to you or to scatter the cremated remains if you wish (see State and local laws, or ask your Memorial Counselor about where and how this may be done). You can discuss the purchase of a crypt or niche in a mausoleum or columbarium. These designated places will hold the urn and provide a respectful gathering place for mourners, as well as a lasting place for visiting and honoring the deceased. Generally, family members have the option of choosing an indoor or outdoor place of interment.

Which type of urn should I choose?
This is a highly personal decision that you can make with the helpful guidance of your Memorial Counselor. An urn can be as simple or stylistic as you wish. Many urns can be engraved with the name of the decedent, the birth date, and the date of death. Urns are available in a variety of shapes, such as custom urns in the shape of a cherub. Urns are also available in various materials, although regulations may require that you choose an urn made of copper, bronze, ceramic, marble, or granite.

What are my memorialization options?
Your Memorial Counselor can explain your options for memorializing a loved one. Generally, cremation lends itself to customizable memorialization. Many families choose to memorialize the cremated remains of their loved ones by interring them in a garden niche, or by placing them in a columbarium. In addition to the memorial within the cemetery, your family might choose to plant a tree near the family home in memory of the decedent or make a charitable donation to an organization.

Since 1905, Inglewood Park Cemetery has served families throughout Los Angeles with respectful cremation services. Visit us online if you wish to view a selection of our available cremation urns and cemetery memorials. Or, call (310) 412-6500 and one of our Memorial Counselors will be happy to answer any questions you might have.

5 Ways to Show Sympathy After a Death [INFOGRAPHIC]

Death is a natural part of life, but it is still a challenging and overwhelming experience when someone you love passes away. If you have a friend who has experienced a loss, it may be hard to know what to say or do to express your sympathy. Phrases such as “I’m sorry for your loss” and “you are in my thoughts and prayers” can go a long way in showing that you care. You can express sympathy at the cemetery service in the Los Angeles area as well as in the days and weeks before and after. Consider bringing food to the bereaved after the funeral, as they may not have the time or inclination to cook. You can also identify and fill a need, such as running errands or making arrangements with the cemetery. Take a look at this infographic to learn more about expressing sympathy after a death. Please share with your friends and family.

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Delivering a Eulogy

If you will be delivering a eulogy at the memorial service at the cemetery, it’s best not to try to share a biography of the decedent’s life. Instead, focus on one or two main attributes of the individual that affected you the most. You might discuss the decedent’s warmth and compassion toward others, his or her commitment to family, or the way the decedent always put others first.

When you watch this video, you’ll get some more helpful guidance on planning the eulogy. This expert recommends sharing a story about the decedent that reflects his or her good qualities and characteristics.

For more than 100 years, Inglewood Park Cemetery has provided compassionate cremation services for Los Angeles-area families. To discuss our cremation services or interment spaces, call (310) 412-6500.

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